Father's Day

My lesson in church today nearly crashed and burned.  Speaking to a group of all men about the eternal nature of families I said, "I'd like to take the last ten minutes and let any of you speak who would like to share what you've learned from your fathers."  How could I have known that the results would be disastrous?  I had a couple of positive answers, but then the room went silent before two men spoke about how their mothers were better fathers to them their actual fathers, and one man said, "My father was an example to me because I learned to do the exact opposite of everything he did."  I realized two things: